Top Ten ‘_NF_’ Movies; The Ultimate Quest Of The Heart

If you’re a touchy-feely introspective soul, like myself, then you might enjoy this rather random and ramshackle list of movies that I think have a particular interest to the NF personality types. Not to say that other personality types are excluded of course. I’m sure these choices appeal to a fairly broad audience, but intuitive feelers in particular might relate to where I’m coming from.

So without further ado here’s my top ten NF movies of all time, (so far…)

PS: spoiler alert for all movies listed.

10. Sense and Sensibility.
So to kick start the list we have the 1996 adaptation of the classic period drama from the 19th century novelist Jane Austin. For me this is by far the best version out there. Ang Lee is a renowned director with a string of superbly accomplished movies in his canon, and this is yet another example of how to deliver. As I’m sure you’re probably familiar with the story I’ll skip the exposition and focus mainly on the artistic merits and character studies.

Jane Austen was such a consummate scholar of character study herself that it’s fun to try and type the individuals in her novels, often with a fair degree of accuracy I think. It’s a real joy to see them come to life played by such competent and well rounded actors.

I could imagine myself entwined in this romantic period drama era, (excluding the poor sanitation and potential for rampant dysentery of course) having to endure the maddening social protocol whilst desperately harbouring chastened feelings of repressed sexuality. It’s that bitter sweet combination of tension and release that sets up a great and enduring narrative.

And that final scene between Ellinor Dashwood and Edward Ferrars played beautifully by Emma Thomson and Hugh Grant is quite exquisite.

Imagining the world through the eye’s of others

In our present time it seems natural and prudent for people to view their experience of the world from a self oriented perspective. It makes sense to have a focus on ones own needs in terms of self preservation and personal growth.

But for better or worse empathic types have a proclivity to feel their way through experiences in a profoundly intimate way. It comes as an instinctual part of life to want to understand how other people are experiencing their world. It is sometimes to the detriment of the empaths own constitution that they endeavour to learn through this method. There is however much to be gained by being high in openness and conscientiousness.

The Zen Buddhist philosophy of ‘Shoshin’ describes a state of mind where one is in harmonious accord with the present state of being without judgement or desire for control. One has a beginners mind, unconditioned, like a baby’s vulnerability to possibility and engagement with the new.

Being open to the potentiality that one’s own judgement may be wrong and that others can be right is a good premise on which to build a platform for appreciation. Allowing space to enter the thought process and giving time to acknowledging the impermanence of things.

When we can be open to the possibility of fallibility we become listeners and are ready to learn. To allow a situation to resolve itself through the use of introspection rather than action is as much a study of others as it is a study of the self.

The majority of us have empathic inclinations by nature and can benefit greatly from cultivating this much underrated ability. How we move through the world depends greatly on the part we play within society. We can sometimes become dispirited by the solipsistic nature of the, self comes first, philosophy of modern living. We are seduced by marketing slogans such as, “because I’m worth it”. But do we not all have worth inherently?

The more we take the time to appreciate the worth of others the more likely we are to be open to understanding the perspectives of others. Putting our own wants and desires on pause for a short while, we allow ourselves the space to embody the spirit of Shoshin and give ourselves the opportunity to see with the wisdom of the many.

Getting it wrong in order to get it right; INFJ learning

The INFJ has a desire to truly understand. It’s not enough to just learn by rote, we need to know how all the pieces of a given problem fit together and what those connections mean within the context of the whole.

Failing frequently, without apparent improvement may not be a particularly efficient way to learn. Repeated failures could signal a lack of aptitude and potential to both the student and the teacher imparting the knowledge. But, the fault may not necessarily be found in the failure itself. This could be a result of not being able to comprehend a given concept, rather than a failure to understand it.

To not understand generally means that one has not yet grasped the value of what the final result should be, but to not comprehend is to have not grasped at the conclusion to begin with. This results in a need for further investigation into how or why the results have or should be achieved from a perspective of quality.

To progress effectively the INFJ learner uses a preferential mode of enquiry in order to be able to build up a broad perspective. This contemporary process takes several metaphorical bites of the ‘apple’, so to speak, from various locations to gain a proper sense of what ‘appleness’ can potentially be, before fully committing to what an apple actually is. A rudimentary association is investigated from the inside out. Seeds, core, starchy flesh, skin, leafy stalk, branch, tree, wood, desk, teacher, apple… This all happens in the background, but can often be sensed in an abstract way. The information is perceived as a feeling rather than a thought.

Data is processed and contrasted with previous patterns of experience. After adequate scrutiny of the phenomena has taken place it’s constituent parts are threaded together into a larger network, like data nodes in a constellation, primed for further integration.

Sensing types often have an inclination towards a step by step sequential mode of filtering information. Intuitive’s on the other hand tend to bounce around from one node to another in a non-linear fashion testing options and possibilities before arriving at fixed conclusions. This can prove problematic in the short term as this approach is less energy efficient and can be much slower.

One advantage the system does have, is that it’s always on, chugging along in the background meticulously sifting through the data and scanning for connections. →